Language
November 20th, 2008Language is a funny thing. It is how we communicate ideas, thoughts, and feelings. Generally, we believe this is all done through the spoken word, through verbal language, words, phrases. Going to Cuba, where the general language is Spanish, made me realize that much of language remains the non-verbal, the subtle and not so subtle things which allow us to convey thoughts, feelings and emotions across time and space.Some of the language differences were overcome by some knowledge on my part. I had three years of Spanish in high school, all of a sudden, all those hours spent conjugating verbs paid off. I could make out about twenty-five or thirty percent of the conversations that took place in Spanish. I could make out another twenty or thirty percent of the conversation as I put words together and made some implied assumptions. Another twenty or thirty percent of the conversation you could make out from the body language and the emotions.
When you can’t understand the language, the non-verbal communication becomes that much more important. The bows, the hand gestures, the smiles, all make up part of the language…but perhaps more telling is the language they use behind you. A host’s smile at a restaurant may turn to a frown as soon as they turn their back and a crumbling look when they are talking to the server may spell some trouble ahead. A host’s smile turning to a frown of concern becomes something more when he gets a waiter that can speak English to come and wait on your table, “just to make you feel more comfortable.”
Those gestures speak volumes.
A good example of the non verbal, not so subtle language was in one of Hemingway’s old haunts, the Floridita Bar, with its famous daiquiri. As we were sitting at the stately bar, I noticed the bartenders jaw drop about two inches and his mouth hang open. He pointed at the doorman. The bartender then took both hands to his eyes and held them like binoculars. The doorman spun around and saw nothing - turning, he looked at the bartender and shrugged his shoulders. The bartender then took his hands and made some generous curves in the air…there was no doubting what he saw. The doorman laughed, the bartender saw me smiling at him and his very descriptive non-verbal story and winked at me and all three of us shared a hearty laugh.
In the end, some things are universal.